The perks of dating as you get older
Whether you’re just re-entering the dating scene, or have been been dating for some time and are starting to feel anxious about finding someone you can have a connection with, it’s important to know that a lot of people feel this way — regardless of age. But one big positive about dating in your 50s that younger age groups don’t always have is the benefit of experience.
Ahead, matchmaker, dating coach, and relationship expert Julianne Cantarella, MSW, shares the upside of dating in your 50s, based on the personal experiences her own clients have had.
Why Dating in Your 50s Is the Best
You’re more confident. Studies show that confidence can increase as we age, and Cantarella has seen this in her clients. “You’ve lived a life and are no longer willing to bend yourself into a pretzel to please someone else,” she says. “ You’ve had jobs, raised families, and are heading into the next phase. You don't have time for games.”
All that confidence is good news, since both men and women find that trait desirable. And while things on the outside may be changing — whether your hair is changing color or you’re starting to wear dentures — it’s important to not let the external affect your internal feelings of confidence. For those wearing dentures, Polident’s 3-Minute Denture Cleanser kills up to 99.99 percent of odor-causing bacteria in just three minutes1. It’s a quick, simple way to help increase your smile confidence before any big event!
You know how to communicate. Effective communication helps to grow and build intimacy, explains Cantarella. She says that people in their 50s can recognize and understand the importance of communicating more so than younger age groups, which helps bring them closer to a partner. A study done by the Stanford Center on Longevity agrees, illustrating that as many of us age, we become more emotionally stable.
There’s a lot more clarity. Those dating in their 50s know the difference between a need and a want, says Cantarella. And with many in no rush to start a family (since some may already have one by this time), the parameters open up a little bit more, making room for someone in your life who may not have fit in before.
You’re both more mature. According to Cantarella, there can be a lot more substance to a relationship in your 50s than in your 20s. “As a mature adult, we look for someone who will bring more to a relationship and enrich our lives. It’s beyond physical attraction. We understand the need for friendship, companionship, and emotional intimacy, things we most likely did not consider in our younger years.”
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